| Caring Hearts |
| Annetta Dellinger and Suzanne Toth with Carmen Leal and her husband, Gary. Carmen is the organizer of the SomeOne Cares Conference. |
| Mission Statement: Caring Hearts will offer Christ-centered personal and confidential comfort and support to caregivers and the bereaved at St. Paul congregation, with further outreach into other areas of congregational and community care needs. |
| For more information, please contact Suzanne Toth at caringhearts stpaulchuckery.com |
| UPCOMING EVENTS Caring Hearts will meet Monday, January 12 at 6pm. |
| Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 |
| RECOMMENDED RESOURCES "Journeying through Grief" packet www.stephenministries.org "Beyond the Sorrow" book www.tammytrent.com CareNotes www.carenotes.com Project Connect booklets Lutheran Hour Ministries www.lhm.org 1-800-944-3450 |
| *All meetings are held at 7pm on the first Monday of each month. We welcome you to join us.* |
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| Someone Who Cares By Steve Siler |
So often I¹ve thought of me
Putting myself first so selfishly
Looking through eyes that only saw my point of view
And not you
Then someone reached out to me
When I needed compassion desperately
I saw the truth and suddenly knew that
You need me to be
Someone who cares
Someone whose willing to stand tall
when the rain falls
Someone who cares
Someone whose there for the long haul
An answer to just one prayer
Help me to be
Someone who cares
Putting myself first so selfishly
Looking through eyes that only saw my point of view
And not you
Then someone reached out to me
When I needed compassion desperately
I saw the truth and suddenly knew that
You need me to be
Someone who cares
Someone whose willing to stand tall
when the rain falls
Someone who cares
Someone whose there for the long haul
An answer to just one prayer
Help me to be
Someone who cares
I want to have your heart
When somebody else¹s breaks apart
Ready to serve
Letting your word lead the way
Every day
Someone who cares
Someone whose willing to stand tall
when the rain falls
Someone who cares
Someone whose there for the long haul
An answer to just one prayer
Help me to be
Someone who cares
When somebody else¹s breaks apart
Ready to serve
Letting your word lead the way
Every day
Someone who cares
Someone whose willing to stand tall
when the rain falls
Someone who cares
Someone whose there for the long haul
An answer to just one prayer
Help me to be
Someone who cares
| Children can react in dramatic and intensely painful ways to the death of a loved one, yet they may show their grief only intermittently. One reason for this is that children do not have the vocabulary necessary to express their grief. Even older children find it difficult to verbalize their painful and often confusing thoughts and feelings. A child is more likely to respond to grief by: Expressing fears for personal survival (“What is going to happen to me? What if something happens to you?”) Demonstrating separation anxiety Having problems with bedtime, school departure, a parent’s work departure Exhibiting problems with social skills Having difficulty making friends Finding it difficult to trust new caregivers Being angry, overactive, or aggressive Expressing intense feelings such as sadness, guilt, shame, pessimism, hopelessness, despair Demonstrating control issues Refusing to follow normal plan for going to bed, doing homework, or eating Slowing down in maturation, or even regressing in some behaviors Losing self-esteem Refusing to try new things or to take on new tasks at school Perhaps the greatest factor influencing a child’s ability to understand and cope with the loss of a loved one is age. We will consider some of the differences among age groups in the next newsletter article. Children of all ages commonly experience difficulties with learning and schoolwork after the loss of a loved one. Parents and teachers need to recognize the persistent effect that grieving has on a child’s learning, which can last well into the second year after the loved one’s death. In addition to whatever tutorial help may be needed, patience and understanding will go a long way toward helping a child handle temporary learning difficulties. All children need adults to help them grieve by understanding, acknowledging, and validating their experience. Source: “Helping Your Child Cope with Grief” by Beth Sheller and Gretchen B. Watts |
| Understanding How Children Grieve (Part 1) |
| St. Paul Lutheran Church |